Stop fearing intimacy. Start embracing love.
Couples counseling for survivors of violence and abuse.
Now accepting clients for in-person sessions in Tulsa
and virtually across Oklahoma and Vermont
I help couples to feel intimate and connected without hesitation or fear.
Mary Ellen Solon, LCSW
My clients have struggles similar to yours. Despite having a relationship that is comfortable, dependable, and supportive, they feel closed off from their partners.
When they first come in, they long for each other but the distance between them feels impossible to breach. They’re together and comfortable but also lonely and lacking.
They really do want to respond more fully when a squeeze on the shoulder turns into a caress. Instead, they just smile and move on to the next task at hand. The uncomfortable thoughts and feelings that come up when slowing down are too overwhelming to bear.
They want to be touched and fully wrapped up in love but they’re afraid of being too open and too exposed.
Old traumas and abusive exes are like ghosts that haunt my clients. They want their bodies and hearts to know what their rational minds already do: that they are safe to feel free and secure. That they can ask for what they want and need and not face ridicule.
Before they came to see me, they thought couples counseling would validate their worst fears about themselves and the state of their relationship.
They worried they would face blame and be made to feel inadequate as a partner. And they were pretty certain that being open and direct with their partners could result in losing their familiar and stable relationship all together.
Your relationship can be your blissful sanctuary.
Joyful and satisfying intimacy, in ALL its forms, is not out of your reach.
If you’d like to experience both passion and safety in your relationship, I’d love to help you get there.
